Communication is key

If there is one thing I have learned in life, it is that communication is key. This rule fits into every single aspect of life. From the moment we are born, we learn to communicate. As an infant we cry for food, diaper changes, and to just be loved. As you age you may learn new ways to communicate but they always revolve back to the basics.. something you want or need and have to speak up. As adults this should be the easiest task for us. We have spent years learning to ask for the things we need. Right? Yet when it comes to relationships, this is the first skill to go out the window.

Why is it that we can ask for food, ask for material items, ask for anything in general yet we can not communicate our needs both mentally and physically once we have found the one? Females in general are even worse with this than men are though this affects everyone. I myself have been guilty of not speaking up. We tend to bottle things inside and just pray they will change. Yet no one comes along with that magic wand. If there is one thing my husband has finally taught me, it is that I need to communicate. He does not know what I want if I don't tell him. There really is no such thing as a mind reader. It started with simple feats. I couldn't even decide where I would want to eat for dinner! You can only imagine if I couldn't do that where my life was going!

When it comes to relationships, you have to communicate. If your sex life is not up to par, the only one who can fix this is you. Do not be afraid to talk. Men and women alike need to feel assured they are doing things right. If you weren't pleasing your partner you would want to know right? Well, your partner feels the same. And if you do not communicate your needs and desires they have no way of knowing. I am sharing this because this is my first step towards recapturing my "pre-baby" love life. In the last year I have had to teach my son to communicate his needs yet I have stopped communicating my own. I feel like I'm starting a 12 step program =]  Time to regain control and learn to speak! My husband is just as excited as I to start this journey and if any of you are in the same boat, please take the time to evaluate things and see if this needs to be your first step as well. I look forward to sharing this journey and hope to at least help one of you in this process!