Pheromone oils, do they really work?

So I have read time and time again about pheromone oils and sprays. They always claim to drive men wild! I have even attended sex parties where they told about how waitresses and dancers would use these oils and sprays and would actually make more tips. Of course I didn't believe it. But, after smelling one of the oils I decided I at least liked the smell of it and wanted to try it. It wasn't very strong and personally I could hardly even notice it. I would forget it was on because it isn't overpowering like a typical perfumed oil is. I loved it.

My husband told me he liked the scent of it. No biggie, he likes a few of my perfumes. I didn't really realize the extent of his likeness for the pheromone oil until recently. I had been wearing other perfumes and lotions I own for a while, but tried something new that I received as a sample. I asked him what he thought and his first reply? "I don't know why you keep wearing perfume. What happened to that oil you used to wear?" Really? It had that big of an impact.. Well, I'm glad I know that now!

So, I have started wearing my pheromone oils again. I went to the gas station and had a guy in line tell me I smelled good. Not sure if it really "attracts a man" but they most definitely do seem to notice it! So if you have been on the fence about trying pheromone products, I say give it a try! In my experience it has been the best $20 I have spent scent wise!

My personal recommendation is a line from Pure Romance called Basic Instinct. If you know someone selling the Pure Romance line of products, give it a try, if not feel free to contact me and I can refer you to a great sales person!

(This is not a sponsored post and I received no compensation. This is a completely personal and honest review)

Foreplay, it's not just for the bedroom

Many people just assume that foreplay is what happens in the bedroom, right before you are going to engage in sex. And many times, sadly, that is what it becomes. A monotonous 20 minutes of trying to get the woman aroused enough to do the deed and be done with it. The same kissing of the neck, groping like teenagers, and undressing time and time again, So many people fail to realize that foreplay can be so much more. it can start from the time you wake up in the morning and end that night if you so choose. (and no, I do not mean 12 hours of making out!)

After showering, take time to dry off and apply lotion to your entire body while sitting nude in the living room before leaving to get dressed. Guess who's mind will be quickly wandering? When you get dressed in the morning, instead of the usual jeans and a T-shirt, go out of your way to wear that favorite outfit you know he loves. Take the time to fix yourself up for no apparent reason. He will be thinking about it all day trust me. As you pass in the kitchen or walking down the hall, lightly brush against each other just enough to say "I want you" but not to give in. One of my other favorite things is sending random texts of things you want. It's so much easier when you aren't in front of the person to tell them what you like. So take advantage of it!

Many women love to hold hands. A simple walk holding hands or wrapping your arms around them can mean a lot more then you would think. Public displays of affection (as long as it isn't the hot and steamy go get a damn room type of PDA) can carry over to the bedroom as your SO will feel more confident and assured that you don't mind others knowing they are yours.

Yes, I know it sounds silly that these not so sexual things can actually be considered foreplay but give it a try. There are so many simple things you can do that will build the foundation for the right moment. And in the end have your SO begging to actually hit the sheets instead of teasing!

Communication is key

If there is one thing I have learned in life, it is that communication is key. This rule fits into every single aspect of life. From the moment we are born, we learn to communicate. As an infant we cry for food, diaper changes, and to just be loved. As you age you may learn new ways to communicate but they always revolve back to the basics.. something you want or need and have to speak up. As adults this should be the easiest task for us. We have spent years learning to ask for the things we need. Right? Yet when it comes to relationships, this is the first skill to go out the window.

Why is it that we can ask for food, ask for material items, ask for anything in general yet we can not communicate our needs both mentally and physically once we have found the one? Females in general are even worse with this than men are though this affects everyone. I myself have been guilty of not speaking up. We tend to bottle things inside and just pray they will change. Yet no one comes along with that magic wand. If there is one thing my husband has finally taught me, it is that I need to communicate. He does not know what I want if I don't tell him. There really is no such thing as a mind reader. It started with simple feats. I couldn't even decide where I would want to eat for dinner! You can only imagine if I couldn't do that where my life was going!

When it comes to relationships, you have to communicate. If your sex life is not up to par, the only one who can fix this is you. Do not be afraid to talk. Men and women alike need to feel assured they are doing things right. If you weren't pleasing your partner you would want to know right? Well, your partner feels the same. And if you do not communicate your needs and desires they have no way of knowing. I am sharing this because this is my first step towards recapturing my "pre-baby" love life. In the last year I have had to teach my son to communicate his needs yet I have stopped communicating my own. I feel like I'm starting a 12 step program =]  Time to regain control and learn to speak! My husband is just as excited as I to start this journey and if any of you are in the same boat, please take the time to evaluate things and see if this needs to be your first step as well. I look forward to sharing this journey and hope to at least help one of you in this process!

About Me

Amber
I am a 26 year old stay at home mom. I had my first child in March of 2011. A lot of things change when you have a child and I'm here to say it can be rough! I wanted to start this blog to take back my old life. I miss those times with my husband when I felt like I was on top of the world. Of course I do take a lot of blame for the things changing so now I want to take control to change them back! This blog will be my tips, tricks, reviews and more on my trip to reclaiming the pre-baby life I used to love so much! Because I was told once "Your love life shouldn't end at conception" and I am definitely starting to see this!